Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
Do you feel like a fraud? Do you believe you don’t deserve what you’ve accomplished in life or that you’re not as smart and competent as others think you are?
If so, you may be experiencing imposter syndrome. Simply put, imposter syndrome can occur when you doubt your own skills and achievements, despite evidence showing otherwise.
A recent study estimates more than 80 percent of adults have experienced imposter syndrome at some point in their lives. It appears to be more prevalent among high achievers and perfectionists.
Here’s the problem: imposter syndrome stops us from operating in our full selves.
I often work with clients who feel they’re not worthy of their accomplishments. As a result, they end up focusing more on what they didn’t do instead of what they did accomplish. I ask them, “Are you really a fraud, or are you just not giving yourself credit for what you’ve achieved?” Every time, the latter is true. These clients are authentic. They just haven’t taken the time to embrace their authenticity.
So, how do you get out of feeling like a fraud and a “less than” mindset? Here are our ABCs to overcoming imposter syndrome.
A – Acknowledge and Assess
Talk with a friend, colleague or mentor about what you are feeling. Sometimes, saying it out loud is half the battle. Then, assess and acknowledge your accomplishments. Start with one. Find something you’ve completed in life that brought you joy (earning a certificate for a new job skill, sticking to the family budget for a month, picking up a new hobby, etc.).
B – Be Kind
Overcoming imposter syndrome doesn’t happen overnight. Be kind to yourself and cultivate self-compassion. Give yourself the same support and understanding that you would give to a friend in need. Shift your mindset and focus on the internal instead of external. These approaches can help you let go of perfectionism and build your confidence.
C – Celebrate
Remember how hard you worked to get where you are! Graciously thank others when they recognize your efforts instead of deflecting praise and compliments. Share lessons you’ve learned along the way. Then, celebrate your wins! For example, honor your accomplishment with a friend or colleague over dinner or coffee or start a journal commemorating achievements. You are worthy of your success!
Sending Hugs of Courage Your Way,